Why am i so shallow when it comes to dating

(I’m fluent in Chinese.) 4) When we went to Hawaii on our honeymoon, I got him to dress up in all sorts of loud Hawaiian prints…and on him, what that great skin, he actually looked cool! So many more ways to say I love you/Te Quiero/T’estimo. It has taken me a longer time to be accepted as multiculturally competent than if I had been born into another culture.So many more terms of endearment – darling, mi amor, estimada, la meva done…. We have the advantage of having chosen our culture, much like the convert to another faith who espouses the new religion wholeheartedly. Who would want to have a simple, normal, easy relationship? After all of that, there was no way I could let him go, ever!

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When we met in Ireland, he didn’t realize how completely common I am in my home country… The interesting thing for me is this: my non-Latvian husband has taught me that I’m Latvian in ways I didn’t even realize. If every marriage is, in a way, the meeting of two cultures, getting to know that other culture also teaches you about yours.

I’m a Latvian married to an American, but I’m an American, too, so I’m not exactly married to a foreigner. I think my brother-in-law put it best at our wedding, when all the Latvians sang me and Joe a folk song and then the brother-in-law said, “You know how people say you marry not just a person, but their family, too? But he’s at least somewhat supportive of it, and we dye our Easter eggs in onion skins every spring.

But in time we did become fascinated with one another’s cultures (even if not always for good reasons).

I can totally relate to what you say about your non-Latvian husband teaching you about how truly Latvian you are.

Like Cory we spend all of our vacations visiting family on the other side of the pond and in Europe and I wouldn’t have it any other way.

We would like the girls to have both passports which will give them the opportunity to be able to choose where they want to attend university and live. Reply A family that shares two cultures, two languages and two lifestyles is just so rich!

As a friend once jokingly told me, “It’s better to have an Italian accent than a gringo accent.” Reply After living in Hong Kong for two years, I came home to Seattle…and promptly met, fell in love with, and married a man from Hong Kong. 8) My kids voluntarily eat tofu, dried whole fish and “juice” made from flowers! (Today, he said his teeth had “plague.” He meant plaque.) 6) His mother! Reply I am Scottish and living with a Catalan man near Barcelona. Dugan Romano’s book Intercultural Marriage even explores various types- I am a Nontraditional.

Whenever I have a baby, she moves in for a month and does all the cooking and cleaning. 5) Being able to have an argument in broad daylight and know that nobody else can understand us. When we argue we can decide it is a misunderstanding and stop! Yes, my family and friends find him totally charming and handsome – and he is. Because he’s so Dutch, he opted to teach our daughter Spanish over Dutch, because he thought it was more “practical”. He’s got that oh-so-useful red (EU) passport, and now so does our daughter! We’re both up always up for an adventure since our marriage is one to begin with. I can always say in job interviews I have hands-on experience with multi-cultural situations. Just about anywhere in Europe, he can manage to understand the answer when he asks for directions (which he always wants to do! However, I find that this is a “taboo topic” even at Global Leadership meetings at the university where I work.

Joseph’s Day is now my favorite church celebration because I get to switch back and forth between Spanish and Italian at the table. Ramon describes himself as “media lengua,” which means he can’t roll “r”s in words like “arroz” (rice) or “perro” (dog). Reply In Hawaii, they’re called “hapa.” In Hong Kong, they’re “Wan Hyut” or just “Mixy”. I’m caucasian, American, and my husband is Chinese. I visited Seattle and Vancouver a few years ago with my son, both of us for sight-seeing, him for hiking, me for searching for Chinese music in both China towns. I’ve always collected a lot of it, my favorite singer being Fei-Yu-Ching (Qing-alternate sp). I have a great excuse for not moving back to the U. I have been fighting for years to be taken seriously as a multiculturalist because I have married into another culture.

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